Catholic family offers a model for love, harmony among races, cultures

| Tyler Orsburn | September 17, 2018 | 0 Comments

In a world that has embraced the CMYK and RGB color charts — the hue models for color printing and computer screens — many in the U.S. still see the world in black and white.

Among racial incidents that have made national headlines recently was actress Roseanne Barr’s racial tweet about an African-American woman who served in the Obama administration. In Philadelphia, a Starbuck’s manager called police on two African-American men who hadn’t placed an order but were waiting for a friend. In Milwaukee, police were accused of tasering a black NBA basketball player over a parking violation at a Walgreens parking lot.

Msgr. Raymond East, pastor at St. Teresa of Avila Catholic Church in Washington, said racism is a worldwide phenomena and problem, and a peculiar institution in the United States.

“A sick society continues to be a sick unless there is some real healing going on, and you have to admit that you’re sick,” Msgr. East told Catholic News Service. “Racism hurts everybody. It hurts the perpetrators and it hurts the those victimized by it.”

The U.S. Catholic Church first addressed human rights for blacks in 1889 when Kentuckian Daniel Rudd, he himself born into slavery, founded the National Black Catholic Congress. But, Msgr. East said, it wasn’t until 100 years later that the bishops voted for their first pastoral plan that addressed racism, education for blacks in Catholic schools, and a way for black parishioners to engage in civil rights.

The U.S. Supreme Court did not make black and white marriages legal until the landmark 1967 civil rights decision Loving v. Virginia. That was 348 years after the first slave ship landed in Jamestown, Virginia. And just two short years before astronauts put a U.S. flag on the moon.

David and Susan Coates, parishioners at St. Teresa of Avila Catholic Church in Washington, pose for a family photo May 19. Aaron, Stephen and Alexis all attend college, while Joshua, at front, is in middle school.

David and Susan Coates, parishioners at St. Teresa of Avila Catholic Church in Washington, pose for a family photo May 19. Aaron, Stephen and Alexis all attend college, while Joshua, at front, is in middle school. CNS photo/Tyler Orsburn

Now the new frontier for raising tolerant and inclusive people isn’t the moon, but embracing multicultural families in our homes and churches. According to a 2017 Pew Research Center analysis, one in six newlyweds were married to someone of a different ethnicity in 2015.

David and Susan Coates met in Washington back in 1987. He’s black. She’s white. They both worked part time at Earl’s Video Store, and when a customer accidentally left $5 in a returned VHS bag, David knew he wanted to share the good fortune with his workmate over some ice cream. They’ve now been married 22 years and have four children.

“My mom always had us believe that God made people for love,” David said, describing his mother’s race-and-culture philosophy sitting next to Susan on their living room couch. “If he (Jesus) came back and picked 12 disciples, He wouldn’t just pick 12 white people, or he wouldn’t just pick 12 black people, he would just pick 12 people that he loved and who would follow him, so you just follow Christ.”

Susan grew up in a small town in western Pennsylvania and didn’t interact with black kids until junior high school. Introducing David to her family was quite a shock and unexpected, she said.

“When David came home to meet my mom and my stepfather, it was a challenge and an uneasy feeling,” she said. “But over time things have changed. David and my mother have a wonderful relationship because of my stepdad — he didn’t see that barrier and treated David nicely and welcomed him into the family.”

Msgr. East told CNS in jest that one sign God gave people to warn them not to interfere with a marriage was that those who criticized Moses’ Egyptian wife for being different were stricken with leprosy.

“You (also) have that beautiful saying in the Book of Ruth that says, ‘Your people will be my people and my people will be your people.’ I think solidifies the larger enterprise of being a people,” he said.

“No one really sees race as a problem in church,” Aaron Coates told Catholic News Service from his parents’ home. One of the Coates’ children, Aaron is a student at Howard University.

“It’s not until you go out into the streets. If churches would help give people the tools they need to help rebuttal those who want to be racists, I think that would be a good thing.”

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