State of the movement: Pro-life approach shifting in current abortion climate

| January 5, 2016 | 5 Comments

As a mother of six, Leah Jacobson is watching other parents try to raise children in a society that no longer supports sisterhood among mothers. And that’s a shame, said the founder and president of The Guiding Star Project, a Duluth-based organization seeking to combine under one roof a variety of holistic health care services for women and families.

Leah Jacobson

Leah Jacobson

“If we stop duplicating services and start using donor dollars to share space . . . we can save thousands and thousands of dollars that can be directed to services” and better compete with Planned Parenthood through brand power, said Jacobson, 34, a parishioner at St. Joseph in Crosby in the Diocese of Duluth. “This is so much bigger than abortion. This is about supporting motherhood.”

Forty-three years into legalized abortion in the United States — the Supreme Court’s landmark decision of Jan. 22, 1973 — pro-life advocates say their mission to save babies is broader than preventing abortions. These same advocates from several Minnesota-based organizations have been working to change how pregnancy resource centers operate in the advent of smartphones and other technology, which have created new ways women seek information and obtain abortions.

Pregnancy resource centers want to be clear that they strive to serve women with authenticity and sincerity because they care about them and their situations, said Sarah Mealey, a marketing and strategic planning consultant who helped streamline the previous merger of two established Twin Cities pro-life pregnancy resource centers to form Abria Pregnancy Resources last fall.

“And in the process, we hope and pray that she chooses life,” Mealey said. “When you respect somebody’s intellect and freewill, you come at it very much less about ‘we’re right, you’re wrong’ and more about ‘we actually care about you [regardless of your circumstances]’. We see and respect the human person.”

Focusing on a woman’s or family’s needs during an unexpected pregnancy or other volatile time allows pregnancy resource centers to earn trust and build relationships. What’s most important, advocates say, is that this is done tangibly and not merely through a mission statement. Mealey acknowledged that while some affiliates of the pro-life movement might prevent abortions through shock or shame, advocates are asking, “At what cost?”

“We want these young women not only to choose life, but also to be effective, strong parents, or to choose adoption,” said Mealey, who serves on Abria’s board and is a parishioner of Holy Family in St. Louis Park. “A lot of these women don’t understand the inestimable worth of their own soul, and so they can’t possibly understand the inestimable worth of their child’s soul.”

Abortions in Minnesota  2014 data

Number performed: 10,123
Number performed on Minnesota residents: 9,172

Highest occurrence by age — 20-34-year-olds: 7,013

Most common reasons for abortion:

  • “Does not want children at this time” (6,998)
  • “Economic reasons” (2,712)

Top 4 counties of residence of women who obtained abortions:
Anoka–592 • Dakota–689 • Hennepin–3,496 • Ramsey–1,681

Top 3 providers of abortions:
Planned Parenthood of Minnesota: 4,981
Whole Woman’s Health, LLC: 2,768
Robbinsdale Clinic: 1,088

Minnesota Department of Health

More than a model

Abria Pregnancy Resources is intentionally situated on University Avenue in St. Paul — within 5 miles of 10 colleges and universities, and a dozen low-income neighborhoods, positioning it to reach people in need of its services. It’s also across the street from the state’s only Planned Parenthood site where surgical abortions are performed and less than a mile down the street from NARAL Pro-Choice Minnesota.

Mealey said Abria’s biggest challenge is reaching Millennials (commonly defined as those born between 1980 and 2000) who are highly engaged through mobile devices and also are most likely to have an abortion (see box). That’s why Abria’s website is mobile-friendly, and staff members are capable of providing information via online chat and texting. The next goal is to create a mobile app, Mealey said.

And while they’ve seen success evident in abortion numbers declining longitudinally nationwide, pregnancy resource centers have determined they can propel that trend by reaching people before they’re in a crisis situation by starting important conversations about dignity, fertility and sexual health with adolescents. Abria has a variety of educational programs in the works to accomplish that.

A look at pro-life pregnancy resource centers’ services affirms the focus of their approach. Resulting from the merger of Highland LifeCare Center in St. Paul and University LifeCare Center in Minneapolis, Abria took best practices from both and enhanced its growing list of medical services with personal services such as life coaching. The “vanguard” approach contributes to trust and relationship-building with clients, Mealey explained.

Today, abortion’s implications are magnified when women are able to initiate a chemical abortion in the privacy of their homes using the oral pill RU-486. That, too, is where pregnancy resource centers have a place, Mealey said.

“It’s one thing to go in and have a very sterile ‘medical procedure’ done by a doctor and a nurse, and then it’s over and you don’t see the consequences,” she said. “It’s another to take two pills in your own home, go through the pain, go through labor, and then take the nascent life that is now dead and flush it away — literally — in your own bathroom.”

Mealey noted that Abria wants to add RU-486 reversals to its medical services.

A coach approach

Kristin Wermus, right, a master-certified life coach and client services director, visits with Aleesha Warner and her 2-week-old son Jayden at Pregnancy Choices in Apple Valley in this 2014 file photo. Dianne Towalski / The Catholic Spirit.

Kristin Wermus, right, a master-certified life coach and client services director, visits with Aleesha Warner and her 2-week-old son Jayden at Pregnancy Choices in Apple Valley in this 2014 file photo. Dianne Towalski / The Catholic Spirit.

As certified life coaches with Pregnancy Choices in Apple Valley, Kristin Wermus and Kearston Lazaretti have a goal to change the conversation with women who are “abortion vulnerable or determined.”

Most women who walk through their doors seeking a variety of free services are between the ages of 20-24 and want to take a pregnancy test. Upon the result, Wermus, Lazaretti and the center’s other life coach, who’s bilingual, start partnering alongside the women through an eight-week process.

“We’re not leading them, we’re not holding their hands,” Wermus said. “It really is instructing the ignorant. You step over into judgment if you don’t have the right tools.”

Those tools include asking the right questions to women and connecting them to the values they’ve defined for themselves. Values, Wermus said, are the first things to go in a stressful situation. Lazaretti noted that their life coaches ask their clients how their decisions honor or dishonor their values. Unfortunately, they said, abstinence isn’t a value for most of the women they coach. And sometimes, women still choose abortion.

Wermus said Pregnancy Choices, founded in 2006, follows the tenants of the Catholic Church, but staff members don’t directly tell a woman she can’t have an abortion.

“We’re called to suffer in this work,” said Wermus, a parishioner of St. Francis of Assisi in Lake St. Croix Beach. “We give all the credit to the Holy Spirit, to Jesus, to God — that we know we might not have prevented this abortion with our conversation, but potentially the second one, because we see a lot of women who’ve already had abortions who come in here because they do want a different choice.”

Wermus said that of their 1,000 clients in 2015, about 12 chose abortion.

Even after clients know they want an abortion and that Pregnancy Choices doesn’t provide them or make referrals for them, many women still want to talk.

“[Life coaching] helps us to walk alongside them without taking the responsibility of their choices upon ourselves,” said Lazaretti, a parishioner of All Saints in Lakeville.

Wermus added, “I want every single person who’s going to have an abortion south of the river to come here first. And we have to make that happen, because if we’re not, we’re doing something wrong. I know once we get them through the door, we have the exact structure to help them. But it’s just getting them through that door. Life coaching allows them to choose life because they can see the possibility, rather than the probability. Most of us try to live in probability, which is really about fear.”

Conveniently but coincidentally, an adoption agency is located across the hall. Wermus and Lazaretti said life coaching resulted in three clients choosing adoption in 2015.

In expanding the life coaching model, Pregnancy Choices invites other pro-life pregnancy resource centers to observe their work. That’s how Abria Pregnancy Resources came to add life coaching to its services.

A community of women

As pro-life pregnancy centers continue to counter Planned Parenthood and other abortion providers with fewer resources, Jacobson’s Guiding Star Project is gaining traction.

In December, it announced a partnership with California-based Obria Medical Clinics to enhance medical services at Guiding Star centers.

Guiding Star’s first physical center opened in Tampa, Florida, in July. An existing pregnancy resource center merged its services with Obria’s medical services and moved into a 5,000 square-foot space in a different area of town with a different demographic of women. By eventually offering support groups around menopause, nutrition and lactation, the Guiding Star center hopes to become relevant to all women.

“We’re not just about handing out diapers,” said Jacobson, a certified lactation consultant. “Together, we’re stronger. [Professional providers] vouch for each other and support each other’s services. That’s what the pro-life movement needs.”

Mealey noted that Abria Pregnancy Resources is looking into the possibility of partnering with the Guiding Star Project and Obria Medical Clinics.

Under the Guiding Star model, a variety of fertility, pregnancy and medical service providers are considered tenants in a space the nonprofit owns. Jacobson said tenants agree to Guiding Star’s philosophy statement and have a willingness to work with others. Guiding Star centers cater their services to the community’s needs.

Although it started as Birth Choice 30 years ago, Obria recently re-branded and branched out, replacing its baby supply rooms with nurses stations to become a medical clinic.

Since then, Obria has seen an influx of clients — both women and men, Jacobson said.

“They went through a huge metamorphosis, so we were interested in growing [with them],” Jacobson said, adding that full medical clinics are the way pregnancy resource centers truly can compete with Planned Parenthood, especially with services that accompany women’s needs. “We’re really hoping we can eventually do mammograms.”

The new partnership also will enable them to open more physical centers nationwide, all of which will include an Obria clinic. She anticipates the next Guiding Star center to open in the Twin Cities.

“We’re making strides in changing public opinion on abortion, but until we as a movement can find common ground, the underlying issues of the culture of death aren’t being addressed,” Jacobson said. “Bigger is better to have presence and legitimacy.”

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  • M. Archangel

    A very positive model for helping young pregnant women. If only it were true. A quick visit to the Obria Long Beach Clinic website reveals the truth. Read the Abortion Information section to see the usual list of fictional claims of “Post Abortion Syndrome”, and the “dangers of abortion.” First trimester abortions are actually safer than normal pregnancy in healthy women. Read the section on contraception. The only method mentioned is the “morning after” pill and that is by way of advising against it. Read about supporting young pregnant women with “life coaching”, disposable diapers and baby supplies but not effective contraception. The entire operation is a fraud. If you want to prevent abortion, support the universal availability of contraception.

    • Terry

      @ M Archangel: Ineffective birth control is a key reason women end up at Life Care Centers. Former Planned Parenthood RN’s have testified that they often gave out low-dose estrogen birth control pills to post abortive women. The outcome, as planned, another abortion.

      Your side also fails to educate on the dangers young women face by having an abortion before maturity (e.g. Higher incidence of breast cancer), much less the dangers of decades on pharmaceutical hormones, and post abortion emotional trauma.

      Fraud is defined as deceit, trickery, deception. Perhaps you should gaze in a mirror? For now I will pray that your heart be turned.

      There are limitless places for women to get artificial birth control. As Catholics, we accept that there are far safer and more natural family planning methods.

      • M. Archangel

        The Church doesn’t have to agree but it should be willing to dialogue. On that ground, I thank you for your response. BTW, I’ve moved to the Catholic Coalition for Church Reform and comment under the name Dominic Deus. You are welcome to follow in dialogue (we read The Catholic Spirit faithfully! 😉 Your comments will always be treated with respect. Please extend the invitation to any and all of your colleagues. The Catholic Spirit is a good newsletter–in Minnesota we say “it’s not half bad.”

        • Terry

          @M. Archangel(Dominc Deus)

          Glad you are willing to dialog. Unfortunately, if you call yourself a Catholic and yet support abortion our interaction will be more theatrical than substantial. Let’s try anyway. I’ll assume you are a Progressive. Based on the organization with which you are now involved; and, your coalition members, it’s a safe bet.

          My intention is to give you another look at Life Care Centers and the valuable service that they provide to clients especially via life coaching. It would be helpful if you would put down the contraception issue for this moment. We follow Catholic teaching on this subject; and for more than religious reasons.

          Life Coaching is not preaching. It is quite the opposite. Done correctly it empowers women. It helps them to discover their true values often for the first time. Women in a crisis pregnancy often have been victims of abuse (>60%). Women who have had abortions and subsequently come to a Life Care Center have been victims of pressure from others (>90%),and often victims of abuse as well.

          We do not turn women away even if their beliefs differ from
          Catholic theology. One example: We served a lesbian woman who was being pressured to have an abortion. She’d had a previous abortion and had a bad experience. (We’ve never heard from a client that she’s had a positive abortion experience by the way). She came to us not knowing where else to turn. She’d had a liaison with a male before meeting her same sex partner. Her partner wanted nothing to do with the child. In this particular case the client chose life and is even considering adoption for her child. She needed support to make her choice.

          Your passion seems to have coalesced around abuse. This is a subject that Life Coaches deal with every day. If you really want to do more to thwart the impact of abuse, my hope is that your heart will soften when it comes to Life Care Centers. We do God’s work with honesty. That’s real social justice.

          • Dominic Deus

            Thank you for your reply! I can feel a conversation coming on. I can set aside the contraception issue for the moment and listen to you. Regarding the issue of abortion, I agree with you100%. It cannot be allowed to roadblock everything. Interestingly, in my four years on the Council of the Baptized, the issue has never come up. There has never been a proposal to develop a position paper on it nor do I see one on the horizon. In my opinion, many Catholic reformers see it as a legal issue and do not expect the Church teaching on it to change, nor do they wish to engage abortion directly. They are all familiar with the Consistent Life Ethic and seem content to not challenge that teaching. I assume some of them support it as is.

            I can give you a a more personal take on that regarding the Life Care Centers: to the extent that they truly support women who would otherwise have an abortion, I support them. Especially the adoption option. Your more in depth response says to me that you know the complexity unintended pregnancy, of domestic abuse, chemical dependency, woman to woman support, social service support, child care, education, income and a job. I don’t expect any Life Care Center to provide all of that. Much of it is or should be the responsibility of the state or federal government but the personal touches are up to us.

            So maybe you are not fraudulent. Maybe you are entirely well intended. Maybe the same is true of us. Anyway, we can talk.

            To close, let me go back to what I “put down”. There is no question that a Catholic organization cannot offer contraception to clients. It is against current Church teaching; a teaching we would like to see change. We think there is hope because we know Pope Francis has seen the consequences of women being barred from controlling their reproductive health. We also think he is generations ahead of Pope Paul in what I would call “modern enlightenment.” We will see.